17 Things I Have Learnt

When you blog you find yourself browsing through the blogging hashtags on social media. This browsing ends up with you clicking on lots of blog promotional links and reading through lots of content and often buying the item they’re talking about. However recently the rage to be reflective in blog content is on a high. I’ve always liked writing more personal posts just because it tells you lot more about me. It also means I can be a little more amusing than I am through my fashion content, if I say so myself. Today like my blogging pals I want to write the things I’ve learnt in the last few years. I wrote about these when we were approaching the New year and I liked it so wanted to feature a few of those in this and feature a few new ones too. I also had a few photos that I had edited from a shoot for a previous post and wanted to feature them in a new post.

1)  Its ok to have the same crush for longer than 1 year.

We all have crushes whether it’s a crush on a teacher or on a celebrity. I have had the same crush or obsession I think I can call it now, on Richard Hammond. The crush has lasted I’d say around ten years and I used to find it slightly embarrassing as it was a crush but now it’s amusing. Amusing that I have no interest in cars, science or nature but will sit in a trance whilst Hammond describes these things.

2) Its ok to be quirky

When you’re a teenager being different is often seen as a flaw or target for bullies. I was bullied for my appearance and hardworking attitude but now at 21 I have realised it is ok to be different. Its ok to be quirky and dress differently and I am happy with that. I love being different and not blending in with my peers and if that makes me unattractive then so be it. I would much rather be happy with myself then trying all the time to be something I certainly am not. 

3) The nose and lips are closer together than you think

I mentioned this on the last reflective post but like my other embarrassing moments it is one that I will not forget. I was always prepared for my first kiss to be like something from a film something that Jennifer Aniston might be in that you’d cry over.  A scene that young girls would always have in their eyes for their first kisses too.  However, my first kiss was like the comedies that Aniston stars in, alongside Adam Sandler. One had consumed a considerable amount of alcohol to calm her nerves through the date but through nerves and adrenaline kissed the opposite sex on the nose in favour of the lips. Looking back I was very very glad I went for my drugstore nude in favour of a designer lipstick would have been an absolute waste of application. 

4)  Madonna songs work in all situations

I love Madonna and love every single one of her songs so using one of her songs to get out or to improve a nerve wracking situation is probably my most finest and amusing qualities. So I have learnt that if in doubt always think of a song title and try and use that as a way of fitting the situation. I think songs like ‘Like a Virgin’ work better songs like ‘Into the Groove’ … you tell me...Honestly it works but I would advise not actually sing the lyrics that may may make the situation much worse.

5) Exercise can be fun

I was not a fan of PE at school. I would use any excuse to get out of it. I would always ask my teachers for other subjects if they needed help with filing documents as an excuse to get out of PE. Now, however, I can’t get away from group exercise I love my gym classes and have documented them frequently on this platform.

6)  Boot cut jeans and flip flops do not go

Everyone owns a pair of flip flops they are like the slippers for Summer. A comfortable shoe that works great for being on holiday and being around the house. BUT! Never under any circumstance should one wear these shoes with a pair of boot cut jeans like most people know they shouldn’t but why would you? Unless you don't own a mirror or an ounce of fashion sense you just would not do such a thing. I would also suggest avoiding cameras if you want to wear the combination.

7) Its ok to be confident

I am bubbly, confident and pretty out going. Three things which I as I have grown up I have become proud of. Boys say they like those things but I’ve learnt in the last 21 years that they might not like it as much as they say they do. If they liked confident girls I might not be single. I have learnt, though, to accept this and go with it and be the person I want to be. I want to be this confident and outgoing person and nothing not even my impending life long spinster hood shall stop this. 

8) Music taste is personal

Whilst growing up I always found myself trying to fit in and trying to please people. I wanted to fit in with groups by liking their music taste and wanted to be liked for what my music I listened to. Or like the same as everyone else did. I now find that my Spotify and iTunes playlists are so varied not even Sky could find them a genre. I love house, trance but I also love indie pop and have a real soft spot for artists like Barry White and Teena Marie both I know are really embarrassing but I love them. Such legends. Music is personal you like what you like and should listen to what you want to listen to not what friends or family tell you to listen to.

9) ALWAYS REPLY

Life is busy but I have learnt to always reply as quickly as I can to messages or conversations because I learnt how frustrating it is when individuals decide to read and not respond to messages. The blue tick on Whatsapp is rather frustrating to see so just reply to the damn message. It makes life so much easier. If you know you won't be able to reply to the message in a reasonable time just don't open it yet- swipe the notification off your homepage. 

10) Never wear a bikini to an aqua Zumba class

If you are a friend or follower on my other social media links you'll know about my mishap in an aqua aerobics class back in the Summer. Let us just say the instructor saw more than just cleavage, he got a full cup slip. I was mortified but I think the instructor may have been happier than usual seeing as I was the youngest pupil in the class. Moral of the story, wear a very fitted and bust hugging swimming costume. 

11) Being unfriended or unfollowed means nothing

When you find that a friend, acquaintance or family member has decided to remove you from their following on their social media your heart sinks a tad. You get a bit emosh but then you pull yourself together. You then learn that yes they may have removed you because you were annoying but in reality it was because your selfie that was slaying was a reminder of the void that they have. So you make that account as private as can be and let your profile or display image be a reminder of the void in their life. 

12) Learn to Spin

I dream of working in the public relations sector, directing political campaigns and fixing crises. I dream of becoming the real life Olivia Pope. So starting my career in the art of spinning should come easy if I start young. When people decide to browse titles, statuses and tweets it’s important to remember the context of your output to always have something to rely on. 140 characters is hard and so tweeting your thoughts in those characters is difficult so once you've written the tweet, status or caption just remember your context. 

13) Theres no shame in having a booty

When I was growing up the thought of developing a big booty was a real worry because from what I knew it was not something to be desired. Now in 2017 thanks to the Kardashians we can be proud to have big booties and not be in shame of them.

14) Karma is a BIATCH

That boy who ghosted me and that girl who picked on me karma gets their revenge. In 21 years I have learnt that karma will get everyone and if you go out of your way to be nasty or just an anus karma repays you for this. So being nice and civil with everyone in your path is much nicer than going out of your way to be spiteful.

15) It's ok to say NO

Although saying YES to lots of amazing opportunities is great and is one way to deal with anxiety or it was for me. It can also become rather claustrophobic because you find yourself saying yes to everything just to please everyone and forgetting to say yes to the things that you want to say yes to. In 21 years I have learnt to say yes to a majority of things that arise but to also say NO to just as many things. Saying yes it great but being left regretting the ones you said yes to is just as bad as feeling bad for saying no to them.

16) Always SLAY
Slaying in the 21st Century for people between the ages of 18-25 and above in fact is the art of looking good at all times and going out to impress. In 21 years of living and breathing I have developed a love affair with the expression 'go hard or go home' which I use for looking good. If you are going out just for dinner you go out and slay. You never know who you might bump into. For me slaying is all about making those who rejected, ignored or picked on you feel slightly guilty. 

17) GO HARD OR GO HOME
On the same subject this applies for everything if you are going to do something do it to your  maximum. If you go to a spin class go to the next gear and pedal faster. If you go to a Zumba class go for the higher intensity version and just go for it. And if you want your cleavage out in that dress you just purchased go for it. Don't even bother if it isn't 110% of your effort and time.